Berdebat Tentang Persoalan Pribadi
Aims
- To practise seeking and giving advice about a personal problem.
Vocabulary Review
Here are some of the frequent words used in this lesson that have appeared in previous lessons.
andaikata, bagaimana kalau, berhasil, berkenalan, dewasa, gadis, kakak, masalah, menunjukkan, pasangan, pensiun, perbedaan, persoalan pribadi, sangat, yakin
Use the following flashcards to review the Kosa Kata Lalu vocabulary items.
Kosa Kata Lalu Pelajaran 108
andaikata
[a]if only
[q]bagaimana kalau
[a]what if
[q]berdebat
[a]to debate
[q]berhasil
[a]be successful
[q]berkenalan
[a]to be introduced
[q]dewasa
[a]mature
[q]gadis
[a]a young unmarried woman
[q]kakak
[a]an older sister or brother
[q]kedatangan
[a]arrival
[q] [a]a problem
[q]menunjukkan
[a]to show
[q]pasangan
[a]a partner
[q]pensiun
[a]to retire
[q]perbedaan
[a]a difference
[q]persoalan pribadi
[a]personal problem
[q]sangat
[a]very, extremely
[q] [a]be sure
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Here is a letter from a young reader of the advice column in a popular magazine. Read the letter thoroughly checking that you know all the words and understand the issues raised by the writer.
Pacar Andita 19 Tahun Lebih Tua Daripadanya
Nama saya Andita. Saya seorang gadis berumur 19 tahun. Saya masih duduk di Sekolah Menengah Atas. Saya tinggal di rumah kakak. Saya mempunyai pacar yang berumur 38 tahun. Dia bekerja di sebuah kantor pemerintah. Sayang sekali kakak tidak setuju dengan hubungan kami itu. Ia mengatakan pria itu terlalu tua untuk saya. Perbedaan umur kami terlalu besar. Selain itu, di antara saya dan pria itu masih ada hubungan keluarga.
Hubungan saya dengan pria itu sudah berjalan selama kira-kira 6 bulan. Perlu diketahui, selama itu dia belum pernah mengatakan dia cinta pada saya. Tapi kalau dilihat dari sikap dan perbuatannya, tampak sekali ia cinta pada saya. Walaupun demikian, saya belum merasa pasti betulkah dia cinta pada saya.
Hubungan kami sebenarnya sudah cukup dekat. Tapi kami terpaksa selalu bertemu tanpa diketahui oleh kakak. Karena kalau kakak tahu, dia pasti akan sangat marah. Sikap orang tua saya lain sekali dengan sikap kakak. Mereka sangat setuju dengan hubungan kami. Menurut pendapat mereka, pria itu sudah cukup dewasa. Dan juga dia sudah mempunyai pekerjaan.
Pertanyaan saya ialah:
- Bagaimana kalau saya kawin dengan pria itu walaupun kakak saya tidak setuju? Mungkinkah perkawinan kami berhasil?
- Bagaimana dengan umur pria itu yang sudah agak tua? Apakah kami pasangan yang sesuai?
- Apakah jalan keluar yang dapat kami ambil? Sampai saat ini kakak tetap tidak setuju dengan hubungan kami.
- Apakah dapat dianggap benar kalau seorang wanita minta supaya pacarnya menunjukkan cintanya dengan kata-kata? Apakah cinta itu perlu ditunjukkan dengan kata-kata? Atau cukup dengan perbuatan saja?
Adapted from: Dr Sarlito Wirawan Sarwono, Bengkel keluarga: beberapa kasus keluarga ditinjau dari segi psikologi. Jakarta: Bulan Bintang, 1980, pp. 45-46
Exercise 108-01
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Task
Answer each of these questions about Andita’s letter with a short, complete sentence in Indonesian. Each of your answers should make use of a word or phrase copied from Andita’s letter, though you will not be able to copy the whole of your answer verbatim from the letter. One of these key words is given in brackets after the question and this word should appear somewhere in your answer. Study the example first.
Question | Berapa tahun umur Andita dan pacar Andita? [berumur] |
You write | Andita berumur 19 tahun dan pacar Andita berumur 38 tahun. |
- Andaikata kakak Andita mengetahui bahwa Andita dan pacarnya masih berhubungan, bagaimana sikapnya? [marah]
- Apa pekerjaan Andita? [Sekolah Menengah Atas]
- Apakah Andita dan pacarnya bertemu dan berhubungan secara terbuka? [tanpa diketahui]
- Apakah Andita seorang laki-laki atau seorang perempuan? [gadis]
- Bagaimana sikap orang-tua Andita terhadap pacarnya? [sangat setuju]
- Di mana Andita tinggal? [kakak]
- Di mana pacar Andita bekerja? [pemerintah]
- Mengapa Andita kurang yakin akan cinta pacarnya? [belum pernah]
- Mengapa kakak Andita tidak suka pada pacarnya? [tua]
- Sudah berapa lama Andita berhubungan dengan pacarnya? [berjalan selama]
Role Play: Memberikan Nasihat Kepada Andita
Using Andita’s letter as your beginning point, imagine what might happen if all the people mentioned in the letter got together with a counsellor (penasihat) to try to sort out their problems. With your tutor/teacher or with fellow students role play a “round table” discussion involving all the parties mentioned in the letter.
Here is “the cast” (para pemain, literally “the players”). Since no personal names except Andita’s are mentioned in the letter, some names have been invented for them.
Andita | Farida (kakak Andita) |
Hadi (pacar Andita) |
Ibu Hurip (ibu Andita) |
Bapak Hurip (ayah Andita) |
Ibu Endang (penasihat) |
To involve as many students as possible in a big class, there can be more than one “penasihat” or a Panitia Penasihat (a Panel of Counsellors).
Here is how each individual might introduce himself/herself. Carefully read all the statements memorising the key phrases in them. Initially the statements may have to be copied to “crib sheets” as you rehearse the role play, but ultimately the role-play should be acted without any written help. Try to visualise what each individual looks like. Retell the information about each individual from memory, changing the order of items in each statement, varying the way they are expressed, and making up authentic-sounding extra details where you can.
Andita
Nama saya Andita. Saya berumur 19 tahun. Saya lahir di Surabaya. Sekarang saya masih belajar di Sekolah Menengah Umum. Saya tinggal di rumah kakak. Saya mempunyai pacar. Dia berumur 38 tahun. Dia bekerja di sebuah kantor pemerintah.
Farida
Saya kakak Andita. Nama saya Farida. Saya lahir di Surabaya. Saya belum kawin. Sekarang saya bekerja di pabrik sepatu. Andita tinggal di rumah saya. Saya tidak suka pada pacar Andita. Dia terlalu tua. Anda tahu berapa tahun umurnya? Tiga puluh delapan!!!
Hadi
Nama saya Hadi. Saya pacar Andita. Saya berumur 38 tahun. Saya bekerja di kantor pemerintah. Gaji saya cukup besar. Saya betul-betul cinta pada Andita tetapi saya belum pernah mengatakan saya cinta padanya. Soalnya saya malu.
Ibu Hurip
Nama saya Ibu Hurip. Andita itu anak saya. Dia anak yang baik. Saya tinggal di Surabaya. Saya senang Andita berpacaran dengan Hadi. Memang Hadi sudah tua tetapi saya setuju mereka kawin. Hadi seorang laki-laki yang bertanggung jawab. Dia bekerja di kantor pemerintah dan gajinya cukup besar.
Bapak Hurip
Nama saya Bapak Hurip. Saya ayah Andita. Saya juga tinggal di Surabaya. Saya sudah pensiun. Saya setuju kalau Andita kawin dengan Hadi. Hadi itu orang yang baik. Dia sudah bekerja di kantor pemerintah, dan dia betul-betul cinta pada Andita.
Ibu Endang
Selamat pagi. Nama saya Endang. Saya seorang penasihat. Mudah-mudahan saya dapat menolong Anda. Saya yakin kita dapat mencari jalan keluar dari masalah ini.
Most likely the discussion will be initiated by the counsellor, Ibu Endang. She might begin by saying something like this:
After introductions Ibu Endang might cut to the main reason for the gathering by saying:
Farida might respond:
From this point the “actors” should debate the situation that has arisen. Each should give his/her own viewpoint forthrightly, responding to what others say (i.e. not just speaking a “set piece”) and striving to add variation, extra information and personal details while always speaking correctly in short, simple sentences.
Forum Diskusi 108-02
Maybe you have already watched the movie Harold and Maude about the relationship of a young man with a woman who could have been his grandmother.
Students whose first names start with A-K have to write a short passage in favour of such a relationship. Students whose first names start with L-Z have to present arguments why such a relationship is wrong. Each students must also comment to at least three postings of other students.
New Vocabulary for this Lesson
Daftar Kata
- Please note that all vocabulary items printed in bold may appear in an exam!
- The book icon denotes words predominantly used in the written or formal register.
- A smiling face 🙂 denotes words that are predominantly used in the informal register.
berdebat (•debat) | to debate |
berhubungan (•hubung) | to be in contact with, to have a connection with |
berpacaran (•pacar) | to be “going steady”, to be going out together, to be boyfriend & girlfriend |
hubungan keluarga | family/kinship relation/relationship |
ialah | is, are |
jalan keluar | a way out, a solution |
kedatangan | arrival |
menganggap (•anggap) | to consider as, to regard as |
mengetahui (•tahu) | to know something, to find out about s.t., to be aware of something |
malu | embarrassed, shy, too shy |
penasihat (•nasihat) | an adviser, a counsellor |
perbuatan (•buat) | an act, a deed |
perkawinan (•kawin) | marriage, a marriage |
pria | a man, a gentleman |
tampak | to be evident, to appear to be, to seem |
terpaksa (•paksa) | forced to…, to have no choice but to… |
tetap | still, to be just the same, permanent, immovable, unchanging |
selain (•lain) | apart from, in addition to |
sikap | someone’s attitude, an outlook, a position (on an issue) |
walaupun | although |
walaupun demikian | despite this, despite that |
Use the following flashcards to memorise the newly learned words.
anggap
[a]to consider as
[q]berhubungan
[a]to be in contact with, to have a connection with
[q]berpacaran
[a]to be going steady, to be boyfriend and girlfriend
[q]ialah
[a]is, are, to be
[q]jalan keluar
[a]a way out, a solution
[q]ketahui
[a]to know something, to find out about something
[q]malu
[a]embarrassed, shy
[q]penasihat
[a]an advisor, a counsellor
[q]perbuatan
[a]an act, a deed
[q]perkawinan
[a]marriage
[q]pria
[a]a man
[q]tampak
[a]to appear to be, to seem
[q] [a]forced to do something
[q] [a]still, permanent
[q] [a]apart from, in addition to
[q] [a]someone’s attitude
[q]walaupun
[a]although
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