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Lesson 109
3.7 (3)

Posted on 02.07.24

Berdebat Tentang Persoalan Pribadi 2

Aims

To practise more about seeking and giving advice about a personal problem.
To review people’s personalities and achievement

Vocabulary Review

Kosa Kata LaluFlashcardsFind the Hidden WordsLatihan 1

Here are some of the frequent words used in this lesson that have appeared in previous lessons.

AUDIO

cemburu, dewasa, menurut pendapat saya, saya kira, sebaiknya Anda…, saya mengusulkan agar, pacar, sibuk, sehat, meminjam, dikembalikan, masalah, memberi, sangat

Use the following flashcards to review the Kosa Kata Lalu vocabulary items.

Kosa Kata Lama Pelajaran 109

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cemburu

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jealous of another man/woman

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menurut pendapat saya

[a]

in my opinion

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saya kira

[a]

I think

[q]

sebaiknya

[a]

it is better if

[q]

saya mengusulkan agar

[a]

I suggest that

[q]

pacar

[a]

a boyfriend / a girlfriend

[q]

sibuk

[a]

busy

[q]

dewasa

[a]

mature

[q]

sehat

[a]

healthy

[q]

meminjam

[a]

to borrow

[q]

dikembalikan

[a]

to be returned

[q]

masalah

[a]

a problem

[q]

memberi

[a]

to give

[q]

sangat

[a]

very

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The Appearance and Personality of your Partner

Before we continue to Andita’s and her boyfriend’s story, let’s review some vocabulary related to one’s appearance. Test yourself whether you remember their meanings in English— a translation is provided on mouse-over:

cantik / ganteng
kurus
tinggi
tua
besar
berkulit putih
berambut panjang

jelek
gemuk
pendek
muda
kecil
berkulit gelap
berambut pendek

Now let’s take a quick look of the adjectives for personality:

baik
rajin
menyenangkan
bersih
halus
berani
dewasa

jahat
malas
membosankan
kotor
kasar
takut
kekanak-kanakan

You can also use the following adjectives to describe your partner’s personality:

pendiam
cerewet
pelit
boros
cemburu cuek
curiga
romantis
bertanggungjawab

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Review the new vocabulary items by completing the exercises in the tabs.

Rambu di Jalan Raya Bahasa

Cerewet and Cuek

Rambu

Cerewet is listed in the Kamus Besar Bahasa Indonesia as: “suka mencela (mengomel, mengata-ngatai, dsb); banyak mulut; nyinyir; bawel: pembantu rumah tangga tidak suka bekerja pd nyonya rumah yg –;”. The above example sentence “The maid does not like working for her fussy mistress” indicates that cerewet is a term predominantly, albeit not exclusively, used to describe a woman who shows one or more of the following characteristics: hard to please, fastidious, likes to complain, chatty, fussy, and finicky.

Cuek is a colloquialism derived from Jakarta Malay (bahasa Jakarta) and is synonym with the formal Indonesian acuh tak acuh, masa bodoh, and tidak peduli. All four words describe a person who does not care, is dispassionate, unconcerned, indifferent, and disinterested. As an exclamation: Ah, cuek aja (where aja is the colloquial form of saja) means something like: “couldn’t care less”. Other examples (with suffix -in, which is the same as standard Indonesian -kan) are:

Aku sakit hati selalu dicuekin mereka. It upsets me that they constantly ignore me.

Kamu kok cuek ama gue? How come you’re so indifferent about (ignore/neglect) me? (ama = sama, pada)

“Pacar saya baik sekali, tetapi…”

Listen to the sound file below about Andita’s description of her boyfriend and vice versa. Upon listening, pay attention to what adjectives she uses.

andita Pacar saya Hadi. Dia berusia 38 tahun, 19 tahun lebih tua daripada saya. Wajahnya cukup ganteng dan badannya tinggi besar. Dia tidak terlalu kaya. Dia bekerja di kantor pemerintah. Menurut saya, Hadi sangat bertanggung jawab dan dewasa. Dia juga jarang marah. Sudah beberapa kali dia mengajak saya menikah tapi saya masih kurang yakin. Dia terlalu sibuk dengan pekerjaannya! Dia juga tidak romantis. Saya ingin dia punya lebih banyak waktu untuk saya. Saya harus bagaimana?

hadi Pacar saya Andita. Dia masih muda sekali tapi saya sangat cinta kepadanya. Menurut saya, Andita sangat cantik. Rambutnya panjang dan kulitnya putih bersih. Ia tidak terlalu tinggi tapi juga tidak terlalu pendek. Andita perempuan yang menyenangkan dan baik. Ia ramah sekali kepada keluarga saya. Tetapi ia masih kekanak-kanakan, sedikit malas, dan cerewet sekali. Kadang-kadang saya sakit kepala mendengarkannya. Apa yang harus saya lakukan?

“Saya mengusulkan agar…”

So far, you have learned how to give advice about a personal problem. The expressions that you have learned so far are menurut pendapat saya…, saya kira…, saya mengusulkan agar…, and sebaiknya Anda / kamu…

Below are some new expressions that you can use when giving advice:

Pacar saya terkenal jadi ia jarang bersama saya.
My girlfriend is famous, so she is seldom with me.

Cobalah untuk mengikuti kegiatan-kegiatannya.
Try to join into her activities.

Pacar saya terlalu banyak berbicara.
My girlfriend is very talkative.

Usahakan untuk memberitahunya saat ia sedang berbicara.
Try telling it to her when she is talking.

Pacar saya boros sekali.
My girlfriend spends money lavishly.

Saya mengusulkan agar Anda tidak memberinya terlalu banyak uang.
I suggest you not give her too much money.

The Particle -lah

The particle -lah is always attached to the preceding word. This particle can have a number of functions that are explained in detail in paragraph 3.51 of Sneddon’s grammar. One of the functions of -lah is to soften the imperative (described in Sneddon 4.40):


Duduk! Sit Down!		Duduklah! Take a seat, please.
Bersihkan kamar itu! Clean that room!		Bersihkanlah kamar itu! Could you please clean that room!

Depending on how a sentence containing -lah attached to an imperative is pronounced, it can emphasise the imperative, and can have an urgent, rather than a softening tone.


Coba mengikuti kegiatannya! Try to join his activities!		Cobalah mengikuti kegiatannya! You should really try to join his activities!
Ambil buku itu! Take that book!		Ambillah buku itu! Hurry up, take that book!

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Exercise 109-01

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Task

Now, imagine you were a friend or a counselor. There are eight problems presented below and you have to give your own suggestions using the expressions you have learned so far including the new ones.

Pacar saya terlalu gemuk dan tidak sehat.
Teman saya suka meminjam buku tapi tidak dikembalikan.
Saya curiga suami saya bertemu dengan wanita lain.
Anak saya tidak pernah membuat PR (pekerjaan rumah). Apa yang harus saya lakukan?
Kakak saya selalu pulang jam empat pagi. Saya tidak suka. Apa yang harus saya katakan kepadanya?
Adik saya pendiam sekali. Dia tidak bercerita tentang masalahnya. Apa yang harus saya lakukan?
Saya rasa teman saya terlalu kurus sehingga kelihatan seperti orang sakit.
Suami saya pelit sekali. Ia tidak pernah memberi saya uang.

New Vocabulary for this Lesson

Daftar Kata (Word List)L5-Teka-Teki SilangL6-Cari kataFlashcards

Daftar Kata

AUDIO

Please note that all vocabulary items printed in bold may appear in an exam!
The book icon denotes words predominantly used in the written or formal register.
A smiling face 🙂 denotes words that are predominantly used in the informal register.

boros	lavish
ceréwét	quarrelsome, fussy, hard to please, talk too much
cobalah (•coba)	to try (imperative)
cuék	indifferent
curiga	suspicious
jahat	sinful, wicked, evil, nasty
memberitahu (•beritahu)	to tell, inform
pelit	stingy
pendiam (•diam)	a quiet person
penutup (•tutup)	a lid; cover; stop; fastener
penutup telinga (•tutup)	ear plugs
mengusahakan (•usaha)	to try, to make an effort

Use the following flashcards to memorise the newly learned words.

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boros

[a]

lavish

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cerewet

[a]

talkative

[q]

cobalah

[a]

to try (imperative)

[q]

cuek

[a]

indifferent

[q]

curiga

[a]

suspicious

[q]

jahat

[a]

sinful, wicked, evil, nasty

[q]

memberitahu

[a]

to tell someone

[q]

pelit

[a]

stingy

[q]

pendiam

[a]

quiet (of a person)

[q]

penutup

[a]

a cover

[q]

usahakan

[a]

to try, to make an effort

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Lesson 108
5 (1)

Posted on 02.07.24

Berdebat Tentang Persoalan Pribadi

Aims

To practise seeking and giving advice about a personal problem.

Vocabulary Review

Kosa Kata LaluFlashcardsFind the Hidden WordsLatihan 1

Here are some of the frequent words used in this lesson that have appeared in previous lessons.

AUDIO

andaikata, bagaimana kalau, berhasil, berkenalan, dewasa, gadis, kakak, masalah, menunjukkan, pasangan, pensiun, perbedaan, persoalan pribadi, sangat, yakin

Use the following flashcards to review the Kosa Kata Lalu vocabulary items.

Kosa Kata Lalu Pelajaran 108

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andaikata

[a]

if only

[q]

bagaimana kalau

[a]

what if

[q]

berdebat

[a]

to debate

[q]

berhasil

[a]

be successful

[q]

berkenalan

[a]

to be introduced

[q]

dewasa

[a]

mature

[q]

gadis

[a]

a young unmarried woman

[q]

kakak

[a]

an older sister or brother

[q]

kedatangan

[a]

arrival

[q]

masalah

[a]

a problem

[q]

menunjukkan

[a]

to show

[q]

pasangan

[a]

a partner

[q]

pensiun

[a]

to retire

[q]

perbedaan

[a]

a difference

[q]

persoalan pribadi

[a]

personal problem

[q]

sangat

[a]

very, extremely

[q]

yakin

[a]

be sure

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Sebuah Persoalan Pribadi

Here is a letter from a young reader of the advice column in a popular magazine. Read the letter thoroughly checking that you know all the words and understand the issues raised by the writer.

Pacar Andita 19 Tahun Lebih Tua Daripadanya

Nama saya Andita. Saya seorang gadis berumur 19 tahun. Saya masih duduk di Sekolah Menengah Atas. Saya tinggal di rumah kakak. Saya mempunyai pacar yang berumur 38 tahun. Dia bekerja di sebuah kantor pemerintah. Sayang sekali kakak tidak setuju dengan hubungan kami itu. Ia mengatakan pria itu terlalu tua untuk saya. Perbedaan umur kami terlalu besar. Selain itu, di antara saya dan pria itu masih ada hubungan keluarga.

Hubungan saya dengan pria itu sudah berjalan selama kira-kira 6 bulan. Perlu diketahui, selama itu dia belum pernah mengatakan dia cinta pada saya. Tapi kalau dilihat dari sikap dan perbuatannya, tampak sekali ia cinta pada saya. Walaupun demikian, saya belum merasa pasti betulkah dia cinta pada saya.

Hubungan kami sebenarnya sudah cukup dekat. Tapi kami terpaksa selalu bertemu tanpa diketahui oleh kakak. Karena kalau kakak tahu, dia pasti akan sangat marah. Sikap orang tua saya lain sekali dengan sikap kakak. Mereka sangat setuju dengan hubungan kami. Menurut pendapat mereka, pria itu sudah cukup dewasa. Dan juga dia sudah mempunyai pekerjaan.

Pertanyaan saya ialah:

Bagaimana kalau saya kawin dengan pria itu walaupun kakak saya tidak setuju? Mungkinkah perkawinan kami berhasil?
Bagaimana dengan umur pria itu yang sudah agak tua? Apakah kami pasangan yang sesuai?
Apakah jalan keluar yang dapat kami ambil? Sampai saat ini kakak tetap tidak setuju dengan hubungan kami.
Apakah dapat dianggap benar kalau seorang wanita minta supaya pacarnya menunjukkan cintanya dengan kata-kata? Apakah cinta itu perlu ditunjukkan dengan kata-kata? Atau cukup dengan perbuatan saja?

Adapted from: Dr Sarlito Wirawan Sarwono, Bengkel keluarga: beberapa kasus keluarga ditinjau dari segi psikologi. Jakarta: Bulan Bintang, 1980, pp. 45-46

LatihanL2L3L4

Before rehearsing and acting the role play, first do the following exercises. Consult your dictionary or the vocabulary list when you encounter unknown words.

Exercise 108-01

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Task

Answer each of these questions about Andita’s letter with a short, complete sentence in Indonesian. Each of your answers should make use of a word or phrase copied from Andita’s letter, though you will not be able to copy the whole of your answer verbatim from the letter. One of these key words is given in brackets after the question and this word should appear somewhere in your answer. Study the example first.

Question	Berapa tahun umur Andita dan pacar Andita? [berumur]
You write	Andita berumur 19 tahun dan pacar Andita berumur 38 tahun.

Andaikata kakak Andita mengetahui bahwa Andita dan pacarnya masih berhubungan, bagaimana sikapnya? [marah]
Apa pekerjaan Andita? [Sekolah Menengah Atas]
Apakah Andita dan pacarnya bertemu dan berhubungan secara terbuka? [tanpa diketahui]
Apakah Andita seorang laki-laki atau seorang perempuan? [gadis]
Bagaimana sikap orang-tua Andita terhadap pacarnya? [sangat setuju]
Di mana Andita tinggal? [kakak]
Di mana pacar Andita bekerja? [pemerintah]
Mengapa Andita kurang yakin akan cinta pacarnya? [belum pernah]
Mengapa kakak Andita tidak suka pada pacarnya? [tua]
Sudah berapa lama Andita berhubungan dengan pacarnya? [berjalan selama]

Role Play: Memberikan Nasihat Kepada Andita

Using Andita’s letter as your beginning point, imagine what might happen if all the people mentioned in the letter got together with a counsellor (penasihat) to try to sort out their problems. With your tutor/teacher or with fellow students role play a “round table” discussion involving all the parties mentioned in the letter.

Here is “the cast” (para pemain, literally “the players”). Since no personal names except Andita’s are mentioned in the letter, some names have been invented for them.


Andita	Farida (kakak Andita)	Hadi (pacar Andita)	Ibu Hurip (ibu Andita)	Bapak Hurip (ayah Andita)	Ibu Endang (penasihat)

To involve as many students as possible in a big class, there can be more than one “penasihat” or a Panitia Penasihat (a Panel of Counsellors).

Here is how each individual might introduce himself/herself. Carefully read all the statements memorising the key phrases in them. Initially the statements may have to be copied to “crib sheets” as you rehearse the role play, but ultimately the role-play should be acted without any written help. Try to visualise what each individual looks like. Retell the information about each individual from memory, changing the order of items in each statement, varying the way they are expressed, and making up authentic-sounding extra details where you can.

Andita

Nama saya Andita. Saya berumur 19 tahun. Saya lahir di Surabaya. Sekarang saya masih belajar di Sekolah Menengah Umum. Saya tinggal di rumah kakak. Saya mempunyai pacar. Dia berumur 38 tahun. Dia bekerja di sebuah kantor pemerintah.

Farida

Saya kakak Andita. Nama saya Farida. Saya lahir di Surabaya. Saya belum kawin. Sekarang saya bekerja di pabrik sepatu. Andita tinggal di rumah saya. Saya tidak suka pada pacar Andita. Dia terlalu tua. Anda tahu berapa tahun umurnya? Tiga puluh delapan!!!

Hadi Hadi

Nama saya Hadi. Saya pacar Andita. Saya berumur 38 tahun. Saya bekerja di kantor pemerintah. Gaji saya cukup besar. Saya betul-betul cinta pada Andita tetapi saya belum pernah mengatakan saya cinta padanya. Soalnya saya malu.

Ibu Hurip

Nama saya Ibu Hurip. Andita itu anak saya. Dia anak yang baik. Saya tinggal di Surabaya. Saya senang Andita berpacaran dengan Hadi. Memang Hadi sudah tua tetapi saya setuju mereka kawin. Hadi seorang laki-laki yang bertanggung jawab. Dia bekerja di kantor pemerintah dan gajinya cukup besar.

Bapak Hurip

Nama saya Bapak Hurip. Saya ayah Andita. Saya juga tinggal di Surabaya. Saya sudah pensiun. Saya setuju kalau Andita kawin dengan Hadi. Hadi itu orang yang baik. Dia sudah bekerja di kantor pemerintah, dan dia betul-betul cinta pada Andita.

Ibu Endang

Selamat pagi. Nama saya Endang. Saya seorang penasihat. Mudah-mudahan saya dapat menolong Anda. Saya yakin kita dapat mencari jalan keluar dari masalah ini.

LatihanL5L6

Before rehearsing and acting the role play, first do the following exercises. Consult your dictionary or the vocabulary list when you encounter unknown words.

Now back to the role play. Actors in the role play should try out their parts first by practising in pairs, asking and answering. The role play should be repeated several times (on different occasions and with different people taking the various roles). As each individual enters the role-play, they should introduce themselves in Indonesian and engage in some smalltalk first. All those engaged in the role-play should be ready to ask questions about anything any other person says. Latihan L4 gives examples of questions you can ask.

Most likely the discussion will be initiated by the counsellor, Ibu Endang. She might begin by saying something like this:

After introductions Ibu Endang might cut to the main reason for the gathering by saying:

Farida might respond:

Selamat pagi/siang/malam. Terima kasih atas kedatangan Anda semua. Ada teh dan kopi… silakan minum. Barangkali sebaiknya kita berkenalan dulu. Siapa nama Anda?

Baik, terima kasih. Sekarang saya mau bertanya kepada Anda, Farida. Mengapa Anda marah dengan adik Anda, Andita?

Aduh, Bu. Adik saya nakal sekali. Dia…

From this point the “actors” should debate the situation that has arisen. Each should give his/her own viewpoint forthrightly, responding to what others say (i.e. not just speaking a “set piece”) and striving to add variation, extra information and personal details while always speaking correctly in short, simple sentences.

Forum Diskusi 108-02

Maybe you have already watched the movie Harold and Maude about the relationship of a young man with a woman who could have been his grandmother.

Students whose first names start with A-K have to write a short passage in favour of such a relationship. Students whose first names start with L-Z have to present arguments why such a relationship is wrong. Each students must also comment to at least three postings of other students.

New Vocabulary for this Lesson

Daftar Kata (Word List)L7-Teka-Teki SilangL8-Cari kataL8-Cari kataFlashcards

Daftar Kata

AUDIO

Please note that all vocabulary items printed in bold may appear in an exam!
The book icon denotes words predominantly used in the written or formal register.
A smiling face 🙂 denotes words that are predominantly used in the informal register.

berdebat (•debat)	to debate
berhubungan (•hubung)	to be in contact with, to have a connection with
berpacaran (•pacar)	to be “going steady”, to be going out together, to be boyfriend & girlfriend
hubungan keluarga	family/kinship relation/relationship
ialah	is, are
jalan keluar	a way out, a solution
kedatangan	arrival
menganggap (•anggap)	to consider as, to regard as
mengetahui (•tahu)	to know something, to find out about s.t., to be aware of something
malu	embarrassed, shy, too shy
penasihat (•nasihat)	an adviser, a counsellor
perbuatan (•buat)	an act, a deed
perkawinan (•kawin)	marriage, a marriage
pria	a man, a gentleman
tampak	to be evident, to appear to be, to seem
terpaksa (•paksa)	forced to…, to have no choice but to…
tetap	still, to be just the same, permanent, immovable, unchanging
selain (•lain)	apart from, in addition to
sikap	someone’s attitude, an outlook, a position (on an issue)
walaupun	although
walaupun demikian	despite this, despite that

Use the following flashcards to memorise the newly learned words.

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anggap

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to consider as

[q]

berhubungan

[a]

to be in contact with, to have a connection with

[q]

berpacaran

[a]

to be going steady, to be boyfriend and girlfriend

[q]

ialah

[a]

is, are, to be

[q]

jalan keluar

[a]

a way out, a solution

[q]

ketahui

[a]

to know something, to find out about something

[q]

malu

[a]

embarrassed, shy

[q]

penasihat

[a]

an advisor, a counsellor

[q]

perbuatan

[a]

an act, a deed

[q]

perkawinan

[a]

marriage

[q]

pria

[a]

a man

[q]

tampak

[a]

to appear to be, to seem

[q]

terpaksa

[a]

forced to do something

[q]

tetap

[a]

still, permanent

[q]

selain

[a]

apart from, in addition to

[q]

sikap

[a]

someone’s attitude

[q]

walaupun

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although

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Lesson 107
5 (1)

Posted on 02.07.24

Perasaan dan Persoalan Pribadi

Aims

To review adjectives that describe emotions and to practise giving good advice.

Vocabulary Review

Kosa Kata LaluFlashcardsFind the Hidden WordsLatihan 1L2

Here are some of the frequent words used in this lesson that have appeared in previous lessons.

AUDIO

batuk, bersih, berteriak, bodoh, bosan, dasi, di sekeliling, hadiah, hidupkan, hilang, lain, lantai, lari, lulus, mata kuliah, melayani, membosankan, mencari, minta maaf, minta tolong, miskin, mulai, mungkin, nasihat, pindah, ramah, rapi, saku, sejak, sepi, sendirian, simpan, wawancara

Use the following flashcards to review the Kosa Kata Lalu vocabulary items.

Kosa Kata Lalu Pelajaran 107

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batuk

[a]

to cough

[q]

bersih

[a]

clean

[q]

berteriak

[a]

to shout, to cry out

[q]

bodoh

[a]

stupid

[q]

bosan

[a]

bored

[q]

dasi

[a]

a neck tie

[q]

di sekeliling

[a]

in the surroundings

[q]

hadiah

[a]

prize, gift, present

[q]

hidupkan

[a]

to switch something on

[q]

hilang

[a]

gone, vanished

[q]

lain

[a]

different, other

[q]

lantai

[a]

floor

[q]

lari

[a]

to run, to run away, to flee to escape

[q]

lulus

[a]

to pass, graduate

[q]

mata kuliah

[a]

a university course

[q]

melayani

[a]

to serve someone

[q]

membosankan

[a]

boring

[q]

memutuskan

[a]

to decide

[q]

mencari

[a]

to look for

[q]

minta maaf

[a]

apologize

[q]

minta tolong

[a]

to ask for help

[q]

miskin

[a]

poor

[q]

mulai

[a]

to begin

[q]

mungkin

[a]

maybe, perhaps

[q]

nasihat

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advise

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pindah

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to move

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ramah

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friendly

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rapi

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tidy

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saku

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a pocket

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sejak

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since

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sendirian

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alone (without any companian)

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sepi

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deserted, lonely

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simpan

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to store, save

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wawancara

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an interview

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Emotions

You have already met quite a few common and useful adjectives describing emotional states. Check that you recognise these, for example.

bingung, bosan, capai, cemburu, iri, kecewa, marah, sakit hati, sedih, senang, takut, terkejut, tersinggung, tertarik

Let’s review these adjectives. Here is a simple narrative, with pictures substituting for a number of adjectives. Listen to the sound file and read the description carefully. First of all, try to guess what emotion does each picture represent and while listening, check whether you make a correct guess.

Saya belum kawin. Saya tinggal sendirian. Rumah saya agak jauh dari rumah-rumah yang lain dan jauh dari tempat-tempat yang ramai. Cukup sepi di sekeliling rumah saya. Tadi malam saya pulang larut malam, kira-kira jam 12 tengah malam.

Saya sekali, karena saya sudah bekerja keras, tanpa istirahat, sejak pagi. Rumah saya sepi.

Ketika saya membuka pintu depan, saya . Saya mendengar bunyi di dalam rumah. Bunyi itu seperti suara orang. Ada orang di dalam rumah saya! Apakah orang itu pencuri?

Tentu saja saya sekali. Apa yang sebaiknya saya lakukan? Panggil polisi? Lari? Hidupkan lampu?

Saya . Akhirnya, sesudah berpikir agak lama, saya memutuskan untuk menghidupkan lampu. Apa yang saya lihat? Adik saya! Dia tidur di lantai di ruang keluarga. Di sampingnya ada sebotol wiski yang kosong!

Tentu saja saya sekali. Saya berteriak keras sekali. “Ayo, bangun! Bangun, kamu! Sekarang juga. Mengapa kamu mabuk di rumah saya? Mengapa kamu masuk ke rumah saya tanpa izin? Ayo, bangun!!” Adik saya membuka matanya. Dia melihat sebentar kepada saya.

Kelihatannya dia . Dia mulai menangis. “Aduh,” katanya, “Saya minta maaf. Jangan marah. Soalnya tadi saya dipecat dari pekerjaan saya di Restoran Sizzler. Lalu saya melihat pacar saya berjalan-jalan dengan seorang laki-laki lain.

Mereka kelihatan sekali. Di samping itu, uang yang saya simpan di bawah tempat tidur di rumah dicuri semua. Dan akhirnya, saya pergi ke kampus tadi siang, ternyata saya tidak lulus ujian ilmu ekonomi. Sekarang saya tidak mempunyai pekerjaan, pacar saya sudah lari, uang saya hilang dan saya gagal kuliah. Saya mau minta tolong. Saya mau minta nasihat. Apa yang sebaiknya saya lakukan?”

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Personal Problems

Let’s review the problems afflicting the troubled young man lying drunk on the floor of his brother’s sitting room.

Ia dipecat dari pekerjaannya di Restoran Sizzler sehingga sekarang ia menganggur.
He was fired from his job at Sizzlers Restaurant, so now he is unemployed.
Pacarnya meninggalkan dia. Kelihatannya ia lari dengan laki-laki lain.
His girlfriend has left him. It would appear that she has run off with a new man.
Uangnya dicuri semua sehingga sekarang dia menjadi miskin.
All his money was stolen, so that now he has become poor.
Ia tidak lulus ujian ilmu ekonomi sehingga ia merasa sudah gagal kuliah
He didn’t pass his economics exam, so now he feels he has failed in his university studies.
Dia minum terlalu banyak sehingga menjadi mabuk.
He drank too much, and as a result got drunk.

What questions might you put to the young man to find out more about what happened to him, what answers might he give, and what advice might you give him? Because this situation involves two brothers who are on close terms with each other, the appropriate second person pronoun for the elder brother to use is kamu. Remember that when kamu appears after a noun, playing the role of a possessive pronoun (“your”), it is usually abbreviated to –mu and attaches to the end of the noun as a suffix.

Exercise 107-01

Imagine you are being quizzed about your wayward behaviour by a concerned older sibling or by a friend. Lift your answers to their questions from the sentence shells above, BUT change at least one word, replacing it with something of your own, or something lifted from another part of the portfolio of sentence shells. Study this example.

Question: Mengapa kamu dipecat dari pekerjaanmu di Rumah Makan Garuda?
You write (for example): Karena katanya pakaian saya sering tidak rapi.

Sekarang kamu menganggur. Apakah kamu akan mencari pekerjaan baru?
Apakah pacarmu orang yang baik?
Mengapa pacarmu tidak suka lagi pada kamu?
Mengapa pacarmu lari dengan laki-laki lain?
Di mana uangmu biasanya disimpan?
Uang yang dicuri itu kira-kira berapa?
Mengapa kamu tidak lulus mata kuliah ilmu ekonomi?
Sekarang kamu mau belajar apa?
Mengapa kamu minum banyak sekali?
Di mana kamu minum?

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Role Play: Advising a Friend in Trouble

To prepare for this role play, thoroughly review the material studied in this lesson: the narrative in the “Emotions” section and the sentence shells in the “Personal Problems” section. With your tutor/teacher or with other members of your class, bring to life the events and the dialogue of the lesson.

The role play should begin with one actor lying, curled in a ball on the floor. He/She is a person in trouble. A friend arrives (or perhaps two or three friends arrive) and offer help, advice, sympathy (Kasihan!), perhaps also criticism using the language resources of the narrative and the sentence shells. The role play will work best if characters are somewhat exaggerated, and there is plenty of emotion on display. Perhaps there can be a dramatic or humorous contrast between a non-conformist, free spirit (the “troubled” individual) and an up-tight, conservative, easily shocked individual (the “advisor”).

The role play might begin with surprised questions like (for example):

Ada apa? Mengapa kamu di lantai? Apakah kamu sakit?

Exercise 107-02

To complete this IndoLingo exercise, record your voice, then download it and name the file Exercise 107-02. Send it to your IndoLingo Instructor. If you are not subscribed to IndoLingo, you may do this exercise as a written homework assignment.

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Task

Read the above narrative under “Emotions” again. While you read the text, take notes of the main points of the narrative. Then re-narrate the story from a third person perspective. You may start the story like this:

Teman saya bernama Jongres. Dia tinggal sendirian. Rumahnya agak jauh dari rumah-rumah yang lain…

The task is not always as straightforward as it sounds as you have to make certain adjustments when it comes to the use of passive voice. Remember that if the agent is a first or second person pronoun we need to use passive type 2:

Tentu saja saya bingung sekali. Apa yang sebaiknya saya lakukan? and
Apa yang saya lihat? Adik saya! Dia tidur di lantai di ruang keluarga.

With a third person pronoun we have the choice to use either passive type 2…:

Tentu saja dia bingung sekali. Apa yang sebaiknya dia lakukan? and
Apa yang dia lihat? Adiknya! Dia tidur di lantai di ruang keluarga.

…or you may use passive type 1:

Tentu saja dia bingung sekali. Apa yang sebaiknya dilakukannya? and
Apa yang dilihatnya? Adiknya! Dia tidur di lantai di ruang keluarga.

Record the narrative in IndoLingo.

New Vocabulary for this Lesson

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Please note that all vocabulary items printed in bold may appear in an exam!
The book icon denotes words predominantly used in the written or formal register.
A smiling face 🙂 denotes words that are predominantly used in the informal register.

iri	envious; jealous
kecéwa	disappointed
melaporkan (•lapor)	to report something to someone
mabuk	drunk, sea-sick or travel sick
malas	1. lazy, 2. reluctant / unwilling to do something
memutuskan (•putus)	to decide
menangis (•tangis)	to cry, to weep
menganggur (•anggur)	to be unemployed, to be doing nothing
minta izin	to ask for permission
pecat (memecat)	to dismiss someone (from a job), to fire / sack someone
pencuri (•curi)	a thief
perasaan (•rasa)	emotions, feelings
persoalan (•soal)	a problem, a difficult issue
séks	sex (especially when you are talking about the general subject of sex)
terlambat (•lambat)	late (i.e. not on time)
meninggalkan (•tinggal)	to leave a person/place, to abandon someone or something

Use the following flashcards to memorise the newly learned words.

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hadiah

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a gift, a present

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izin

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permission, a permit to ask for permission

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kecewa

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disappointed

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laporkan

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to report something to someone

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mabuk

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drunk, sea-sick

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malas

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lazy

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memutuskan

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to decide

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menangis

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to cry

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menganggur

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to be unemployed, to be doing nothing

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pecat

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to fire someone (from a job)

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pencuri

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a thief

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perasaan

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emotions, feelings

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persoalan

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a problem

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seks

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sex (general subject of sex)

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sendirian

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alone (without companion)

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terlambat

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late (i.e. not on time)

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tinggalkan

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to leave a person or a place

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Mencari Pasangan

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Aims

To review and practise adjectives that can be used to talk about personality and character and start talking about the relationship between husband and wife.

Vocabulary Review

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Here are some of the frequent words used in this lesson that have appeared in previous lessons.

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aneh, bahu, bantuan, beragama, bercerai, bidan, ingin, jilbab, keren, keriting, lumayan, lurus, masalah, menikah, menjahit, merawat, merokok, nonton, pendidikan, pengusaha, penuh, pokoknya, sederhana, setuju, SMA, sopan, swasta, tempat tinggal, usaha

Use the following flashcards to review the Kosa Kata Lalu vocabulary items.

Kosa Kata Lalu Pelajaran 106

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aneh

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strange, weird

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bahu

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shoulders

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bantuan

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an assistance

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beragama

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to be a follower of a religion

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bercerai

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to have a divorce

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bidan

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a midwife

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ingin

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to want, to desire

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jilbab

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hijab

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keren

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stylish

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keriting

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curly, wavy (of hair)

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lumayan

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not really bad

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lurus

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straight

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masalah

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a problem

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menikah

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to get married

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menjahit

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to sew

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merawat

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to take care, to nurse

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merokok

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to smoke

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nonton

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to watch (movies etc.)

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pendidikan

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education

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pengusaha

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a businessman(woman)

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penuh

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full

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pokoknya

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basically

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sederhana

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simple

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setuju

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to agree

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SMA

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high school

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sopan

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polite

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swasta

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private, not public)

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tempat tinggal

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a place of residence

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usaha

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a business

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Attributes of Character and Behaviour

You have already met and used a host of terms that can be used to describe physical appearance, personal characteristics and emotions. For example, you have met several contrasting pairs of adjectives that can be used to describe a person’s physical appearance. These include:

muda
besar
cantik
gemuk
tinggi
laki-laki
rambut panjang tua
kecil
jelek
kurus
pendek
perempuan
rambut pendek

To talk about a person’s achievements and personality you can use: (a translation is displayed on mouse-over)

aneh, baik, berani, bergengsi, berhasil, bersih, biasa, bodoh, cocok, dingin, halus, kasar, kaya, keren, kotor, kuat, manis, marah, membosankan, menarik, menyenangkan, miskin, moderen, pandai, penting, sederhana, rajin, ramah, terkenal

Check that you remember the meanings of these important and very common words.

Catatan Budaya: Gengsi

The words gengsi and bergengsi are usually translated as “prestige” and “prestigious”. This definition does not sufficiently convey the complex underlying cultural concept of gengsi, and the Kamus Besar Bahasa Indonesia (KBBI) uses the following words to roughly circumscribe what gengsi entails: 1. kehormatan dan pengaruh ‘respect and influence’, 2. harga diri ‘self-esteem’, and 3. martabat ‘stature, dignity‘.

Gengsi is indeed all about prestige, but also about respect, esteem, social status, stature, rank, and pride.

Things that are bergengsi: wearing dark sunglasses, speaking English, listening to Western music, wearing a Rolex, driving a nice car, wearing designer clothes, and so on.

Not only things, also professions carry gengsi. A farmer is less bergengsi than a teacher, for instance.

In Indonesia, houses are often cheaper than cars. In Medan, which is a big city with some of the more expensive house prices, you can get a four bedroom house for about €30,000, but even for a modest Corolla you pay more. Of course, the house will be situated on a small section of only 150m2, but that is a solid investment into the future. Yet, many people prefer living in a small house just to be able to buy a car. After all, while it does add to someone’s gengsi being a home owner, but being seen leaving your little mansion on a motorbike or even taking public transport – what a shame.

To illustrate how adjectives like these can be used to describe people, further down you will find some advertisements, copied with a few deletions and some minor editing from a regular column in the fortnightly popular magazine Liberty published in Surabaya. The column helps readers locate a spouse.

Read the advertisements very carefully. There are four from men and four from women. They are written in a series of short phrases rather than in complete sentences. Check the vocabulary cards if you find words you don’t know.

Mencari Pasangan Hidup

Mencari Istri Setia

Ingin yang berjilbab

Nama: Muhamad Isa. Status: belum kawin. Lahir tahun 1976, tinggal di Bandung, suku Sunda, beragama Islam. Pendidikan SMA, pekerjaan BUMN, tinggi 165 cm, berat 46 kg, kulit sawo matang, wajah lumayan, rambut hitam kemerah-merahan. Hobi bersepeda, kenalan, membaca, nonton, dengarkan musik. Sederhana, tidak royal, bertanggung jawab, dari keluarga baik-baik.

Istri yang diinginkan. Status: belum kawin atau janda tanpa anak. Umur di bawah 25 tahun, tempat tinggal tidak menjadi masalah, beragama Islam (taat), suku tidak menjadi masalah. Pendidikan SMA, pekerjaan juru rawat, bidan, karyawan toko. Yang penting harus berjilbab, wajah manis, tidak materialistis, dari keluarga baik-baik.

Ingin istri yang buka katering/kantin/warung

Nama: Liem Tek Siong. Status: duda, lahir tahun 1933, bertempat tinggal di Waru Sidoarjo (Jawa Timur). Suku Cina, beragama Budha, pendidikan sekolah Mulo (Bahasa Belanda), sudah pensiun tinggal dengan anak. Tinggi 168 cm, berat badan 66 kg, kulit sawo matang, wajah bulat, hobi membaca, menulis surat, badminton, tidak banyak bicara tetapi terbuka. Sudah tua tetapi sehat.

Istri yang diinginkan Status: janda tanpa anak (atau, anak sudah besar), umur 35-58 tahun, suku dan agama tidak menjadi masalah, pendidikan juga tidak menjadi masalah asal bisa membaca dan menulis. Pekerjaan mengurus katering, kantin atau membuka warung makan, membutuhkan bantuan seorang laki-laki (saya ingin membantu). Tinggi 160 cm berat badan 50 kg, kulit dan wajah biasa saja, terbuka, pandai mengurus uang dan usaha dagang.

Guru bahasa Inggris berkumis lebat

Nama: Ari Matumona. Status: belum kawin. Lahir tahun 1974, tinggal di Maluku Tengah, suku Ambon, agama Kristen, pendidikan universitas, pekerjaan guru bahasa Inggris di SMA. Tinggi 162 cm, berat 58 kilo, kulit sawo matang, wajah lumayan, pasti tidak mengecewakan. Berkumis lebat, rambut keriting. Hobi menyanyi, membaca, sifat setia, penuh tanggung jawab, percaya diri, penuh disiplin dalam tugas, jujur, terbuka, serius, tidak materialistis, suka tertawa, pandangan luas.

Istri yang diinginkan. Status: belum kawin. Umur 17-27 tahun. Agama bebas, suku apa saja, tempat tinggal di mana saja, pendidikan minimal SMA, pekerjaan pegawai negeri atau pegawai swasta dengan penghasilan/gaji tetap. Tinggi 160-165 cm, wajah manis, rambut hitam panjang, pokoknya tidak mengecewakan. Tidak materialistis, pandai mengatur rumah tangga, cinta suami dan keluarga, tidak mudah tersinggung, tidak cemburu, dari keluarga baik-baik. Harus bersedia menikah dengan segera.

Beranak dua ingin istri setia

Nama: Wahyu Utomo Purnama. Status: duda, punya dua anak (laki-laki satu berumur lima tahun, perempuan satu berumur empat tahun). Lahir tahun 1966, tinggal di Malang, beragama Katolik, pekerjaan pengusaha / pedagang, tinggi 162 cm berat 65 kg. Kulit kuning langsat, wajah biasa saja. rambut hitam lurus. Hobi olahraga / lari pagi, suka tertawa, jujur, setia, dari keluarga baik-baik.

Istri yang diinginkan. Status:janda, umur 25-34 tahun, beragama Kristen atau Katolik, pendidikan SLTA, suku Cina, tinggi maksimal 160 cm, minimal 150 cm. Sehat, wajah biasa (tidak usah yang cantik-cantik), jujur, setia, sudah bekerja, sayang suami dan anak, pandai mengatur rumah tangga.

Mencari Suami Setia

Kulit putih dan romantis

Fransiska Wijaya. Status: gadis belum kawin. Lahir tahun 1979, tinggal di Surabaya, suku Cina, beragama Katolik, pendidikan SMA, pekerjaan karyawan perusahaan swasta. Tinggi 155 cm, berat 64 kg, kulit putih, wajah biasa saja / sederhana, rambut panjang. Hobi suka jalan-jalan dan rekreasi ke luar kota, dengarkan musik, sifat romantis, jujur, setia.

Suami yang diinginkan. Status: belum kawin, umur 26-30 tahun, suku Cina, beragama Katolik atau Buddha, pendidikan minimal SMA, sarjana juga boleh. Pekerjaan pengusaha atau pegawai, tinggi dan berat badan seimbang, wajah lumayan, jujur, sabar, setia, bertanggung jawab, dari keluarga baik-baik.

Penampilan keren

Ningsih Setiawati. Status: gadis / belum kawin. Lahir tahun 1984, bertempat tinggal di Nganjuk (Jawa Timur), suku Jawa, beragama Islam taat, pendidikan SMA, pekerjaan perusahaan swasta. Tinggi 158 cm, berat 45 kg, kulit kuning langsat, wajah cantik, rambut hitam lurus sampai ke bahu, ada tahi lalat di pipi kiri. Hobi rias kecantikan, memasak, menyanyi, punya penampilan keren, sederhana, jujur, ramah, sopan, agak pemalu, dari keluarga baik-baik.

Suami yang diinginkan. Status: belum kawin, umur maksimal 27 tahun, tinggal di Solo / Yogya / Jakarta, suku Jawa, beragama Islam taat, pendidikan mahasiswa tingkat akhir atau sarjana, pekerjaan karyawan bank swasta, tinggi minimal 170 cm, tinggi dan berat seimbang, penampilan rapi, rambut pendek rapi, kulit putih bersih, wajah ganteng, suka berdiri di kaki sendiri, jujur, setia, sederhana, sopan, ramah, sayang keluarga. Hanya untuk Anda yang serius, silakan kirim biodata dengan foto terbaru.

Cari yang berkumis

Nama: Nurhayati. Status: gadis / belum kawin. Lahir tahun 1979, tempat tinggal Banjarmasin (Kalimantan Selatan), suku Melayu. Pendidikan SLTA, pekerjaan pegawai negeri sipil. Tinggi 158 cm, agak kurus, kulit kuning, wajah oval, rambut panjang, hobi jalan-jalan rekreasi, nonton, sederhana dan sedikit romantis.

Suami yang diinginkan. Status: belum pernah kawin, umur maksimal 35 tahun, beragama Islam, pendidikan SLTA atau universitas/sarjana, pekerjaan karyawan BUMN atau pegawai negeri sipil, tinggi minimal 165 cm, tidak gemuk, tidak materialistis, bertanggung jawab, romantis, senang kalau berkumis.

Cari suami yang sayang anak

Nama: Ninuk Subroto. Status: janda (sedang bercerai) dengan satu anak kecil, lahir tahun 1981, tinggal di Malang, suku Jawa beragama Islam. Pendidikan pernah kuliah. Tinggi 155 cm, berat 48 kg, kulit kuning langsat, rambut agak pendek, wajah cantik, manis tidak mengecewakan, feminin. Hobi mengatur rumah tangga, memasak, menjahit, dengar musik dan jalan-jalan. Sifat jujur, sedikit keras, bertanggung jawab, romantis, sehat, dari keluarga baik-baik.

Suami yang diinginkan. Status: belum kawin atau duda (duda cerai atau duda mati, tanpa anak), umur 25-30 tahun, hari dan pasaran harus cocok, bertempat tinggal di Malang, Jawa Timur dan Jawa Tengah juga boleh, suku Jawa, beragama Islam taat, pendidikan pernah kuliah, pekerjaan TNI/pegawai negeri/karyawan bank, karyawan telkom, petani sukses, pengusaha sukses. Tinggi dan berat seimbang, kulit kecoklat-coklatan, wajah tidak menjadi masalah, tidak merokok dan tidak suka minum minuman keras, punya hobi yang tidak aneh, mau menerima anak sebagai anak sendiri, jujur, bertanggung jawab, setia, romantis, mau menerima segala kekurangan yang ada pada istrinya, sehat, dari keluarga baik-baik/keluarga TNI. Yang serius ingin berkenalan, kirimkan foto ukuran kartu pos.

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Now complete the exercises in the tabs. Consult your dictionary or the vocabulary list when you encounter unknown words.

Cara Indonesia

The Rhetoric of Male-Female Relationships

Cara Indonesia

The advertisements in Liberty give us some interesting insights into several exotic aspects of Indonesian values and social relations. For example, there are references to janda and duda. Janda can be translated as “divorcee” or “widow” depending on context. Basically it means “a woman who has lost her husband (whether through death or divorce)”. Duda is the counterpart term for men. As you can see, we have no exact equivalents for these terms in English. In fact the very idea they represent seems strange.

The advertisements also refer to beragama Islam taat (a practising/devout follower of Islam). The word taat (devout, obedient) reflects the perception that there are degrees of piety and orthodoxy in Indonesia’s Muslim community. You can expect someone who is taat to pray five times a day and observe other features of orthodox Islamic practice. For women the wearing of the jilbab (a cotton headscarf pinned or wrapped under the chin) is one sign of taat.

Some advertisements refer admiringly to complexion in terms of certain fruits (just as in English you might say that a woman has a “peaches and cream” complexion). The sawo is a kind of dark skinned fruit a bit bigger than an egg in size with a sweet, dark coloured pith. Thus sawo matang (ripe sawo) describes a complexion that is attractively dark in colour. The langsat is a grape-sized fruit with a smooth creamy-yellow skin. Kuning langsat describes a complexion that is attractively creamy in colour.

By the way, the column in Liberty is called “Rama dan Shinta”. Rama and Shinta (also called Sinta and Sita) are the main characters in the Ramayana, an epic of Indian origin that is very well-known in Indonesia. King Rama and his consort Shinta are devoted husband and wife. When Shinta is kidnapped by the ogre king Rahwana, she remains faithful to her husband, and he in turn relentlessly pursues Rahwana to rescue his beloved wife. Rama and Shinta are icons of marital devotion and fidelity. In the advertisements below, one of the main attributes sought in a spouse is setia (faithful, loyal).

Exercise 106-01

Write an advertisement for a husband, wife, or, if you wish, a same-sex partner for insertion in an Indonesian newspaper/magazine. After studying the advertisements above and reviewing the adjectives at the beginning of the lesson, describe your own attributes as fulsomely as you can (but not necessarily with 100% honesty). Then describe the attributes you expect in your ideal partner.

Rambu di Jalan Raya Bahasa

Tersinggung & Sakit Hati

Rambu

In Lesson 101 we learned that sakit hati (literally: ‘sick in the liver’) translates as ‘to be offended’ or ‘harbouring resentment’. In this Lesson tersinggung is introduced having the same meaning.

While both words can translate as ‘offended’ there are subtle differences. The word tersinggung literally means ‘touched’ and is based on the root singgung, which, however, is never used without an affix.

The active form is menyinggung, which can both mean ‘to touch’, ‘to touch upon’, as well as ‘to touch one’s feeling’:

Ia menyinggung tangannya.
She touched her hand.

Dalam buku ini, saya tidak akan menyinggung pertanyaan ini.
In this book I will not touch upon this question.

Kamu sudah terlalu sering menyinggung perasaannya.
You have already offended her feelings too often.

The prefix ter- indicates that tersinggung is a passive verb and that the act was carried out without intention. Tersinggung hence need not imply an intentional hurting but it may indicate merely a violation of the victim’s sense of what is proper or fitting. Because of this, someone who is tersinggung will most likely forgive (memaafkan) the person who has caused the offense.

Sakit hati on the contrary is usually a long-lasting condition of deep resentment often caused by being offended (tersinggung) where the offense is deemed so strong that (at least temporarily) there is no forgiveness. Love is, of course, the main culprit causing sakit hati. In a blog I recently read: Sakit hati adalah kebalikan dari cinta (sakit hati is the flip-side of love).

The nearest gloss for hati is English ‘heart’, but sometimes it also translates as ‘mind’. There are several fixed verbal expressions formed with hati:

senang hati	relaxed, happy, peace of mind
susah hati	troubled, worried
kecil hati	annoyed, hurt, discouraged
busuk hati	(lit. rotten-hearted), evil-minded
baik hati	good hearted
puas hati	satisfied, pleased
ambil hati	to charm (someone), win over
sampai hati	to have the heart to
tidak sampai hati	not to have the heart to, can’t stand to (do something)
hati kecil	conscience, inner voice
hati-hati	watch out
dari hati ke hati	from person to person
suka hati	do as you please

Many cultures have the liver as the seat of emotions. Indonesian hati is rendered ati or ate in many Indonesian regional languages. Among the Maori of New Zealand (and virtually every other Polynesian nation too) ate is not only the organ liver, but also the seat of affections. As Hawaiian has no consonant /t/, the word for liver is ake.

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Role Play: Playing Matchmaker

The advertisements given above come from four men and four women. Give each individual a name, preferably an Indonesian name. With your teacher/tutor or with fellow students in your class match each of the four men with one of the four women. There will be differing views about who is best matched with whom, so a vigorous debate will take place, entirely in Indonesian of course. If options run out, it may even be necessary to endorse a match that is somewhat less than perfect for one or more of the marital hopefuls.

In Module 4, beginning in Lesson 54 you began practising how to exchange opinions and debate things, and these skills were developed in each of the subsequent modules. It will help you make a success of this role play if you thoroughly review the relevant lessons.

Lesson 35 also gives practice with the comparison of adjectives using lebih ____ daripada (more ____ than). Lesson 53 gives practice with terlalu (too). Lesson 80 gives practice using yang paling ____ (the most). Lesson 43 gives practice with mengapa/kenapa (why), and Lesson 45 gives practice with siapa yang (who is it that is). All of these expressions will make a big contribution to the matchmakers’ debate if they are well mastered, so review the relevant lessons carefully.

Two adjectives that you will use a lot in this discussion are cocok and sesuai which mean “right (for someone)”, “suitable (for someone)” or “compatible (with someone)”.

You might begin the discussion something like this.

Menurut pendapat saya, [name] yang paling cocok untuk [name], karena…
In my opinion, [name] is the most suitable for [name] because…

Maaf, saya kurang setuju. Saya kira [name] lebih sesuai untuk [name] karena…
Sorry, I don’t really agree. I think [name] is better for [name] because…

Saya sama sekali tidak setuju. [Name] tidak cocok untuk [name] karena…
I disagree completely. [Name] is not right for [name] because…

Kenapa? Bagaimana kalau [name] itu kawin dengan [name]? Mungkin lebih cocok.
Why? What if [name] marries [name]? They may be more compatible.

Aduh! Tidak! [Name] itu terlalu [adjective] untuk [name]. Saya kira lebih baik kalau…
Oh! No! [Name] is too [adjective] for [name]. I think it would be better if…

Hmmmm. Baik. Lalu siapa yang paling cocok untuk [name]?
Hmmmm. Okay. So who is best for [name]?

New Vocabulary for this Lesson

Daftar Kata (Word List)L10-Teka-Teki SilangL11-Cari kataL12-Cari kataFlashcards

Daftar Kata

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Please note that all vocabulary items printed in bold may appear in an exam!
The book icon denotes words predominantly used in the written or formal register.
A smiling face 🙂 denotes words that are predominantly used in the informal register.

bertanggung jawab	to be responsible
bulat	round
BUMN (Badan Usaha Mliik Negara)	a state-owned corporation
buruk	bad, grim, unfavourable, difficult (of a situation)
cemburu	jealous (of another man/woman)
diinginkan	to be wished, desired
duda	a widower, a (male) divorcee
gadis	a young unmarried woman, a virgin
janda	a widow, a divorcee
jujur	honest
kartu pos	a postcard
kenalan (•kenal)	1. an acquaintance, 2. (=colloquial for berkenalan) to meet a person, to meet people, to make someone’s acquaintance
kumis	a moustache
mengecewakan (•kecewa)	disappointing
pandangan (•pandang)	someone’s gaze, an opinion/view about something
pasangan (•pasang)	partner (i.e. one member of a couple), pasangan hidup life partner
pemalu (•malu)	a shy person
penampilan (•tampil)	someone’s appearance, the way someone presents themselves
pénsiun	retired
percaya diri	self-confident
rapi	neat, not messy, carefully done/made
royal	spendthrift, extravagant (in spending money)
sayang	1. unfortunately, 2. to love someone, to be fond of someone
setia	loyal, faithful
sifat	a quality (that someone or something possesses), a feature, a characteristic
sipil	civil (i.e. not military)
suku	ethnic group, tribe
taat	obedient (especially obedient to religious laws)
terbuka (•buka)	open, open-minded
tersinggung (•singgung)	offended, hurt, (by what someone has said)
wajah	someone’s face

Find the following hidden words: station, post • self • tidy • pious • round • bad • unmarried woman, girl • honest • appearance • offended • disappointing, to disappoint

Find the following hidden words: moustache • faithful • characteristic • the face • a shy person • jealous • pension • be open • darling, sear, love • a pair • a view • be desired

Use the following flashcards to memorise the newly learned words.

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bertanggung jawab

[a]

to be responsible

[q]

bulat

[a]

round

[q]

BUMN (Badan Usaha Milik Negara)

[a]

a state-owned corporation

[q]

buruk

[a]

bad, grim

[q]

cemburu

[a]

jealous (of another man/woman)

[q]

diinginkan

[a]

to be wished, desired

[q]

duda

[a]

a widower, a (male) divorcee

[q]

gadis

[a]

a young unmarried woman, a virgin

[q]

janda

[a]

a widow, a divorcee

[q]

jujur

[a]

honest

[q]

kartu pos

[a]

a post card

[q]

kenalan

[a]

an acquaintance

[q]

kumis

[a]

moustache

[q]

mengecewakan

[a]

disappointing

[q]

nonton

[a]

(colloquial) to go to the movies

[q]

pandangan

[a]

someone’s gaze, an opinion/view about something

[q]

pasangan

[a]

a partner

[q]

pemalu

[a]

a shy person

[q]

penampilan

[a]

someone’s appearance, the way someone presents themselves

[q]

pensiun

[a]

retired

[q]

percaya diri

[a]

self-confident

[q]

rapi

[a]

neat, not messy, carefully done/made

[q]

royal

[a]

spendthrift, extravagant (in spending money)

[q]

sayang

[a]

to love someone

[q]

setia

[a]

loyal, faithful

[q]

sifat

[a]

a quality, a characteristic, a feature

[q]

sipil

[a]

civil (i.e. not military)

[q]

suku

[a]

tribe, ethnic group

[q]

taat

[a]

obedient (especially obedient to religious laws)

[q]

terbuka

[a]

open, open-minded

[q]

tersinggung

[a]

offended, hurt (by what someone has said)

[q]

wajah

[a]

someone’s face

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Posted on 02.07.24

Seorang Wanita Berobat Ke Dokter

Seorang Perempuan Berobat ke Dokter

Aims

To practise some phrases and idioms that are common in conversational Indonesian.

Vocabulary Review

Kosa Kata LaluFlashcardsLatihan 1Latihan 2

Here are some of the frequent words used in this lesson that have appeared in previous lessons.

AUDIO

akhir-akhir ini, apotek, berobat, capai, cepat, gejala, jarang, jatuh, tenggorokan, mengurus, meninggal, mudah-mudahan, nanti dulu, nasi, pembantu, perlu, perut, pilek, pusing, sehingga, semacam, sembuh, soalnya, telur, tempat tinggal, tugas, ujian

Use the following flashcards to review the Kosa Kata Lalu vocabulary items.

Kosa Kata Lalu Pelajaran 105

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akhir-akhir ini

[a]

recently, lately

[q]

apotek

[a]

pharmacy

[q]

berobat

[a]

to seek medical treatment

[q]

capai

[a]

tired

[q]

cepat

[a]

fast

[q]

gejala

[a]

a symptom

[q]

jarang

[a]

rarely

[q]

jatuh

[a]

to fall

[q]

tenggorokan

[a]

throat

[q]

mengurus

[a]

to take care of something

[q]

meninggal

[a]

to pass away

[q]

mudah-mudahan

[a]

hopefully

[q]

nanti dulu

[a]

hang on a sec

[q]

nasi

[a]

cooked rice

[q]

pembantu

[a]

domestic servant

[q]

perlu

[a]

to need

[q]

perut

[a]

belly, abdomen

[q]

pilek

[a]

the cold

[q]

pusing

[a]

dizzy

[q]

sehingga

[a]

until, so that

[q]

semacam

[a]

a kind of

[q]

sembuh

[a]

recovered

[q]

soalnya

[a]

the thing is

[q]

telur

[a]

egg

[q]

tempat tinggal

[a]

a place of residence

[q]

tugas

[a]

task, duty

[q]

ujian

[a]

exam

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Seorang Wanita Berobat ke Dokter

The vocabulary and expressions you have studied in preceding lessons can be used to exchange information and advice about illness. Let’s look at an example of how this language might be used in an extended dialogue between a patient and a doctor.

To study this part of the lesson you will need to listen to the sound file carefully. While listening, try to memorise the lines and say the words out loud. When you find any difficult words, take a look at the transcription and close it again. Keep memorising and saying the words until they come out smoothly.

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When you have finished listening to the sound file and reading the transcription, check your understanding of this dialogue by doing the exercises in the tabs.

Download Test also your vocabulary by doing the fill in the blanks exercise.

Selamat sore, Bu. Silakan masuk. Duduk di sini saja.	Terima kasih Dokter.
Nah. Apakah Ibu sudah pernah berobat ke sini?	Sudah, Bu. Dua bulan yang lalu. Waktu itu saya sakit perut dan muntah-muntah.
O, ya ya. Bagaimana sekarang? Apakah perutnya sudah sembuh?	Sudah, Dokter. Tetapi sekarang saya sakit lagi.
Sakit apa?	Aduh, Dokter. Saya cepat capai dan sering pusing. Kadang-kadang saya sakit kepala. Saya mudah pilek dan sering batuk-batuk.
Hmmm. Sudah berapa lama ada gejala semacam itu?	Belum lama. Sejak dua minggu yang lalu. Saya sakit apa, ya, Bu?
Hmm. Nanti dulu. Ibu, umurnya berapa?	Umur saya dua puluh tiga tahun.
Apakah Ibu sudah kawin?	Sudah, Bu. Tetapi sekarang kami sudah bercerai. Saya tinggal di rumah orang tua bersama ibu dan adik-adik.
Apakah Ibu sudah bekerja?	Sudah, Bu. Saya bekerja sebagai karyawan di pabrik sepatu Rike.
O begitu. Berapa hari seminggu?	Biasanya enam hari seminggu, sepuluh jam sehari. Saya libur pada hari Jumat.
Hmmm. Dan apakah Ibu juga punya tugas di rumah?	Oooo, banyak Bu dokter. Ayah saya sudah lama meninggal, ibu saya sudah tua sehingga saya yang harus memasak untuk adik-adik saya, dan saya juga yang mengurus rumah. Kami tidak punya pembantu.
Hmmmm, berat juga. Ibu kelihatan kurus. Berat badan biasanya berapa?	Biasanya 60 kilo, Bu, tetapi akhir-akhir ini berat badan saya turun menjadi 50 kilo.
Baik, sekarang saya mau memeriksa tenggorokan Ibu. Coba, buka mulut. Hmm, keluarkan lidah. Ucapkan aaaahhh.	Ahhhhh. Bagaimana, Bu. Apakah tenggorokan saya merah?
Tidak. Kelihatannya tenggorokan Ibu tidak apa-apa. Sekarang berdiri. Angkat tangan kanan. Angkat tangan kiri.	Aduh! Kalau saya mengangkat tangan kiri saya begini, punggung saya sakit, Dok.
Bu, boleh saya bertanya. Apakah Ibu selalu sarapan sebelum berangkat ke pabrik?	Wah! Jarang. Soalnya, pada pagi hari saya harus mengurus adik-adik. Saya tidak punya waktu untuk sarapan.
Hmmm. Begini, Bu. Saya kira Ibu tidak sakit, hanya capai dan terlalu sibuk.	O, begitu. Apa yang sebaiknya saya lakukan supaya saya tidak merasa sakit dan capai?
Pertama-tama, saya mengusulkan supaya Ibu makan pagi setiap hari. Jangan berangkat ke pabrik kalau belum makan.	Baik, Dokter. Sebaiknya saya makan apa?
Nasi dengan telur, sayuran dan buah. Lalu saya minta supaya Ibu minum obat Energen.	Obat apa itu?
Semacam tonikum yang dibuat dari beras, buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran.	Bisa saya beli di apotek?
Bisa. Harganya tidak begitu mahal. Hanya Rp.12.500 sebotol.	Apakah ada lagi yang perlu saya lakukan?
Saya mengusulkan supaya Ibu beristirahat di rumah kalau Ibu merasa capai atau pusing. Jangan bekerja.	O, baik, Dokter.
Saya kira sudah cukup, Ibu. Ibu boleh membayar di depan.	Berapa, Dokter?
Hanya dua puluh lima ribu.	Terima kasih dokter. Saya minta diri. Permisi dulu.
Mari. Mudah-mudahan Ibu cepat sembuh.

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Exercise 105-01

Imagine you are a doctor talking with a patient. Frame a question to put to the patient in response to each of the following statements. The question should be both grammatically correct and also a sensible and logical response to the remark made by the patient. The dialogue and the sentence shells preceding it should help you frame an appropriate question if you get stuck. Write complete sentences: please don’t write just “Mengapa?” or something like that.

Study the example first.



1.	Mata saya sakit, Bu.	Apakah Bapak banyak menonton televisi?
2.	Saya sakit kepala.
3.	Kaki saya sakit.
4.	Tadi malam saya muntah-muntah sesudah makan malam.
5.	Saya pilek dan batuk-batuk.
6.	Saya jatuh dari atap rumah.
7.	Saya cepat capai dan mudah marah.
8.	Aduh! Ibu dokter. Punggung saya sakit!
9.	Kalau saya pulang dari pabrik, saya sering pusing.
10.	Dulu saya gemuk, Bu. Sekarang saya menjadi kurus.
11.	Saya mahasiswa, Bu. Saya belajar bahasa Indonesia. Kalau ada ujian biasanya saya merasa sakit.

You can also take a look at some possible answers by completing the following Latihan.

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Exercise 105-02

To complete this IndoLingo exercise, record your voice, then download it and name the file Exercise 105-02. Send it to your IndoLingo Instructor. If you are not subscribed to IndoLingo, you may do this exercise as a written homework assignment.

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Task

Look at Exercise 105-01 again. Think of a different answer. Instead of writing the answers down, as you did in Exercise 105-01, record them in IndoLingo.

Role Play: A Sick Person Consults a Doctor

The time has come to bring together all of the many elements of language you have studied over the last seven lessons. With your teacher/tutor, or with other members of your class, act out a consultation between a doctor and a patient. As always, to make a success of a role play, you should strive hard to use not only what you have learned in recent lessons, but as much as possible of all you have learned since starting the course.

Here are the main elements of the role play. Feel free to vary their order where you can, and flesh them out or change them according to your own creativity. Remember, humour, melodramatic dilemmas, parody, character, costume, setting etc. can all help to bring the role play to life, and the more lively the role play is, the better it is for the health of your Indonesian.

Pasien masuk ke kamar dokter: perkenalan, bercakap-cakap sebentar
Dokter bertanya: tanggal lahir, umur, tempat tinggal/alamat, sudah kawin?, bekerja di mana?
Sakit apa? Pasien menggambarkan sakitnya / gejala-gejala
Dokter bertanya tentang gejala-gejala: sudah berapa lama, mana yang sakit, apa yang terjadi, makan apa dsb
Dokter memeriksa pasien: buka mulut, keluarkan lidah, berdiri, angkat tangan, tarik napas dalam-dalam
Dokter memberikan nasihat: Saya kira, Menurut pendapat saya, sebaiknya Bapak/Ibu/Anda, sebaiknya Anda jangan, saya minta supaya ____ jangan …, Bapak / Ibu / Anda harus minum obat dsb
Pasien bertanya: Apakah saya boleh, apakah saya harus, mengapa saya tidak boleh dsb.
Pasien pergi: Berapa? Sebaiknya Bapak/Ibu/Anda kembali dua minggu lagi

New Vocabulary for this Lesson

Daftar Kata (Word List)L12-Teka-Teki SilangL13-Cari kataFlashcards

Daftar Kata

AUDIO

Please note that all vocabulary items printed in bold may appear in an exam!
The book icon denotes words predominantly used in the written or formal register.
A smiling face 🙂 denotes words that are predominantly used in the informal register.

berat	1. heavy 2. burdensome, tough, hard (i.e. difficult to do and demanding)
bercerai (•cerai)	to get divorced
kilo	(short for kilogram), a kilogram
napas	the breath
nah	(particle) now…, okay, now…, (let’s move on to something else)
memeriksa (•periksa)	to examine (someone or something), to scrutinise, to interrogate
perkenalan (•kenal)	an introduction, the striking-up of an acquaintanceship
sibuk	busy (of a person’s work or life-style)
tonikum	a tonic, a tonic drink, a health drink

Use the following flashcards to memorise the newly learned words.

[qdeck align=”center”] [q]

berat

[a]

heavy

[q]

bercerai

[a]

to get divorce

[q]

kilo

[a]

a kilogram

[q]

napas

[a]

the breath

[q]

nah

[a]

(particle) now …, okay (let’s move on to something else)

[q]

memeriksa

[a]

to examine

[q]

perkenalan

[a]

an introduction

[q]

sibuk

[a]

busy

[q]

tonikum

[a]

a tonic, a tonic drink, a health drink

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